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How to Get Clear on What You’re Divinely Designed to Create with your Business

In this week’s episode, I talk about how to get clear on what you are divinely designed to create in your life. We’re going to dig deeper and I’m going to show you how you can make this happen. 

One of my favourite quotes is “life is not a dress rehearsal” and it’s something that by the time we get to midlife, we really start to resonate with, I’m not sure who said it, but it’s a powerful reminder to live life to the fullest each and every day.

If you’re not aligned with your business and you’re just going through the motions, is that living life to the full?

So many people either forget or never realise that we are in charge of creating a life we love. 

Episode Highlights:

  • (03:24) Journaling prompts to help you discover what you really want to do
  • (05:08) Journal your “ideal day”
  • (06:18) Reconnect with your intuition
  • (08:09) Meditate
  • (09:10) Use visualisations

 

Transcript

Hello, and welcome to the Midlife Business Show with Suzanne Mountain. This is the podcast that celebrates all those of us who are building a business during our middle years. I’m an ex corporate girl who started my business six years ago in my fifties. And I’m loving it. This podcast is here to inspire you with conversations with other entrepreneurs about the messy and magical ups and downs of this period of our lives. Plus, I’ll be sharing simple, actionable step by step strategies to help you build a business with impact and a life that you love

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Welcome to this week’s episode of the Midlife Business Show. In this episode, I  talk  about how to get clear on what you are divinely designed to create in your life. So let’s dig deeper and see how we’re gonna make this happen.

One of my favourite quotes is ‘life is not a dress rehearsal’, and it’s something that by the time we get to midlife, we really start to resonate with. I’m not sure who said it, but it’s a powerful reminder to live life to the fullest each and every day. If you’re not aligned with your business. And you’re just going through the motions, is that living life to the full?

So many people either forget or never realise that we are in charge of creating a life we love. We often get trapped thinking about a conventional life, leaving school, graduating from uni, getting a job, getting married, et cetera.

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And whilst all that is wonderful, we are in charge of our choices. If, at any stage in our lives, we realise we’ve made a wrong decision, it is incumbent on us to make a change instead of simply waiting for things to get better. The same is true with our businesses. And that’s what this podcast is about. 

 

Making changes to align our soul with our business. 

The beauty of taking charge of our lives is we can make any changes we want. Personally, I prefer to start small, but if you want to jump in and make a major change, that feels overdue, then go for it. 

If the questions you answered in the previous episode helped you truly see how out of alignment you are, don’t fret. The great news is that you can decide to get back into alignment at any time. You and your business can very quickly transform from struggle to ease. 

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Stepping fully into your purpose begins with allowing yourself to admit what your true passion is and what you do in a perfect world without consideration about money and other people. 

Have you seen those memes on Facebook? They ask, what would you do if you won the lottery? 

Or if you knew you couldn’t fail, or if money wasn’t an issue. 

It’s curious to see some of those answers because they’re usually very different. Especially if the responders go deep into their feelings and offer more than I’d quit my job. 

 

If you think you’ve got an idea of what you want to do, or even if you don’t, use the following journaling prompt to really nail it down. 

Okay so get your notebook and a pen. Here’s the questions. 

Here’s the prompts. 

  • What is something you want to do or fantasize about doing, but don’t actually do. This might be something that’s constantly in the back of your mind or a big dream you push away because it seems unrealistic. 
  • What would you do? Even if you weren’t getting paid for it, 
  • What would you do if you could do anything? Literally anything without worrying about money.
  • What are your top values? 
  • Are there any elements of your current work you’d really love to keep?
  •  What are you super passionate about? 
  • What could you talk about for hours on end? 
  • What do you research in your free time? Sometimes these topics of interest are just hobbies that they can often point to your passion and purpose too. 
  • What did your 10 year old self want to do? 
  • What are you currently doing in your business that you enjoy doing?
  •  What if you had to leave your house every day, where would you go? 
  • And what would you do if you knew you were going to die in one year, what would you do? What would you want to leave behind as your legacy? Now I know this last one can feel a bit morbid, but it serves a useful purpose more often than not. 

 

We place limiting beliefs on ourselves. These are the beliefs that this is all there is to life. Or I can’t possibly do that. 

When we take off those limiting beliefs, it becomes easier to dream and identify our heart’s desires. 

Another exercise to reflect on and journal about is called ‘your ideal day’.  

  • Close your eyes and think about waking up the next morning. You don’t have a care in the world. You don’t need a salary to pay the bills and you can do whatever you want for the next 24 hours. 
  • Visualise yourself in this scenario. And then notice the details about your day. Where are you both physically and location wise? 
  • How do you feel? 
  • What activities are filling your day?
  • How do you feel at the end of the day?
  •  Who do you encounter or spend time with throughout the day? 
  • What work activities and hobbies are you engaged in? 
  • What do you look like now? 
  • Get as specific as possible and examine those ideas and your feelings. You will likely discover some important clues in this exercise. 

If the question above and the ‘ideal day’ exercise didn’t help you get clear then the first stage of stepping into more soul aligned work for you is to reconnect with your intuition. 

And even if you do know what you want to be doing, this next part is equally important to tune into your intuition. It’s that little voice you hear every now and then that nudges you in a direction. 

What little idea has been popping into your head regularly? That’s your intuition. Speaking to you, pay attention to recurring dreams or ideas because there’s a deep reason why they keep appearing in your life and they are worth exploring.

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Your intuition can also warn you such as if you feel unsafe, walking in a dark car park at night, or if a business idea or client makes you hesitate and rethink your intentions. Your intuition is a valuable tool if you listen to it.  

If you shut out your intuition long enough, it can become really hard to hear. This can sometimes happen in childhood when adults in our lives feed us limiting beliefs, harmful criticisms, or when they don’t listen when we want to use our voices. 

While intuition never disappears, it becomes more difficult to recognise the longer we are learning these harmful lessons and even young adults who had wonderful childhoods can begin doubting themselves when they go to uni or move out on their own, thus dulling the intensity of their intuition. However, if you want to step into your purpose, it’s time to get back in touch with your intuition and what it’s nudging you to do.

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You’ve ignored it for so long that it will take some time to get back in sync again, but it is possible. So don’t despair. 

Practical activities for getting back in touch with your intuition include meditation. This is a big one because when you slow down your brain, you can actually hear that inner voice.

 Journaling checking in with your feelings every day. Be intentional about this practice by carving out 10 minutes every single day to ask yourself, what am I feeling? Why do I feel like this? And what does my soul know about this? You can also ask yourself, what do I need right now? 

Ask for guidance and clarity every day. If things feel a bit muddled, even after a regular period of meditation, asking for guidance from your higher self or higher power can be especially helpful. You can ask for guidance, strength, clarity, confidence, wisdom, or courage.

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You can also ask for practical and tangible action steps, try asking out loud or in a journal, questions like what should I do next? 

Or what is my next step? 

 The ‘ideal day’ exercise is a perfect example of visualisation, but also for getting in touch with your intuition. 

Close your eyes and picture yourself acting as though you’ve been working in your soul aligned business. 

  • What do you notice about yourself? 
  • How are you acting? 
  • How are you dressed? 

Keep identifying traits about yourself and how you feel. Turning off foggy, hazy ideas about what we think we might want into actual images makes them more solid in our minds. 

Visualisation also helps things feel more real and doable. 

If you are really struggling, you can also ask an outside trusted source, what they notice you seem super passionate about or something they always thought you’d be great at. 

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Please note that you do not have to follow their exact guidance or pursue the thing they mention. Use this question and the answers as neutral feedback. Hearing others’ points of view can open us up to new possibilities and also help us weed out what we don’t want. Like if they suggest something we know is totally wrong for us.  

Now, having done those exercises, what I want you to do is to wrap it all up by writing down a purpose statement, it’s important to get to this as crystal clear and solid as possible. 

Our brains love having solid goals and ideas to work towards. 

So once you’ve gone through the above, write out a statement that encompasses what you feel you are truly here to give and to whom and how. You can always revisit this later, if you’re missing a piece of the puzzle. 

Now check in with your body after writing your statement.

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Do you feel expansion when you read it as softening or does your body contract, or do you instantly feel overwhelmed? While some overwhelm is actually excitement in disguise, our body can often give us fabulous clues to what we really want and how we truly feel about something. Don’t ignore it. 

This is your intuition at work. 

 

I hope that you’ve enjoyed this week’s episode of the Midlife Business Show. Please complete the exercises I’ve suggested in this week’s and last week’s shows as they are fun to do, and also extremely helpful. 

Next week. I’ll be talking about how you can challenge your beliefs so that you can stop stalling and step forward.  

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Okay, that’s a wrap for today. Thanks for listening. 

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